But it brought me to thinking about the issue and how I go about living my life when it comes to this issue. If you asked people close to me, they would probably be surprised and say that I don't have issues when it comes to this. I am very self confident. They even tell me so. However, what people don't see is the process that I go through before being able to be so.
In reality, I am a shy person. If you speak to me, it doesn't seem that way. Over the years, I have learned that the only way to make friends and get to know people is by getting over that factor. So I would force myself into talking to people. Since I am naturally shy, I still feel that way, however I can get over it rather quick, but the feeling is still there. The same goes for anything in life really. As brave as I seem to people, I still feel all of those natural emotions that come along with each experience. But I have learned that by changing the way you look and think of things has a great deal of impact on how we are able to recover. I say recover, because we will almost always still feel those feelings, if even only for an instant.
I can tell people, I don't care what someone says or thinks about me, but really, that is only partly true. I think it is the same for anyone who says that. Whenever anyone says anything negative about us, there is always going to be some negative emotion tied to it. What matters, is how you recover from it. Are you going to let it hurt you? Are you going to take it personally? Get Angry? Depressed? This is where you do have some control. The first instant emotion is natural. But what you do with that afterwards depends on you. For me, I shrug it off. In the end, I don't really care. Someone can call me ugly, fat, or stupid. That is just their opinion and they are entitled to it. I don't think those things about myself, so why should I care what they think? Quite frankly, I think opinions like that should be kept to oneself. By telling me, they are trying to hurt me, and why should I let them win? If I let them get me mad, upset or violent, then they are getting what they want. I would rather ignore it and let them sulk over it not having an effect on me. Besides, why would I want someone like that around me?
In the end, I am in control. I have built a bubble around me that no one can get through, unless I let them. I am in control of the situation, and knowing that allows for me to have self confidence. Because I know who I am and what I am, and that is what everyone sees. Once I learned to change my thinking to a more positive view, all of my self confidence was able to build. Negative comments no longer have an affect on me. I can see the things that they cannot, and that is all I need to know. ^_^
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